It may surprise you, but the dating scene has almost all but disappeared from most demographics. What has replaced it is the emotionally damaging hookup culture that leaves both ends of the “no-strings-attached” relationship damaged severely. This was certainly not the way God designed it to be.
And certainly is correct. But for Christians who date, what should our expectations be? 2 Corinthians 6:14 states “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?” We’ve all heard this before. Don’t date someone who’s not a Christian. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Sounds nice, with all the church rhetoric surrounding it. But in practice, it doesn’t seem so hunky dory.
As someone who’s been-there-done-that, I hope you will set a side your preconceptions and listen to reason. “But,” you say, “what does the Bible have to say about dating? It’s not in there.” And that’s true. However, if you delve deeper into the canon of Scripture, you might find a striking resemblance in the tale of Solomon, King of Israel:
1But King Solomon loved many foreign women, as well as the daughter of Pharaoh: women of the Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Sidonians, and Hittites—2from the nations of whom the LORD had said to the children of Israel, “You shall not intermarry with them, nor they with you. Surely they will turn away your hearts after their gods.” Solomon clung to these in love. 3And he had seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines; and his wives turned away his heart [emphasis mine] (1 Kings 11:1-3).
Now, while you may not have 700 wives, a principle is nonetheless harped on in this example. The people closest to us have a tendency to influence us. We can also influence others, but love can be a dangerous game.
In my experience, I held on to my unsanctioned relationship because I thought I could change the other person to be like me. Well, that didn’t work and I ended up prolonging the relationship longer than I should have and it caused more pain that it would have if I had just followed God’s plan in the first place.
So the next time we get involved romantically with someone not of our belief system, let’s check ourselves. What is the purpose of the relationship? Why are we in the relationship? What is the projected end of the relationship? Think about these things and date smarter. You’ll be glad you did.